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How to Introduce a Friend to the Outdoors



How to Introduce a Friend to the Outdoors


In my early twenties I was convinced that I’d never be lonely if I could make other people love the things I love, which is why I became a nature guide (and also a writer). Though I no longer believe this to be particularly true—I’ve moved on to other fallacies—I still consider it an incredible privilege when people trust me enough to lead them in something new outdoors. It’s also a role that comes with responsibility: how you introduce people to the outdoors plays a huge part in whether they feel comfortable, welcome, and like they belong. So let’s say your friend mentions that they’d like to try hiking—or camping, or kayaking, or any number of outdoorsy things that can be daunting to newbies—and asks if you’ll bring them along. Hooray! How can you make the experience positive? Here are some tips to help friends and family feel the outdoors might be right for them.

Over-Anticipate Physical Needs

Before you go, let your friend(s) know what to wear and why: “I’d bring long pants because of bugs, and we should wear hats and long-sleeve shirts.” If they don’t have the right equipment or clothing, lend them some or let them know where to get it. You should bring extra sunscreen, water and food. And if there’s a handy place to use the bathroom—or you’re about to go somewhere without a bathroom—let them know ahead of time. Many people are hesitant to state their needs, especially when it comes to bathroom issues. They may feel more comfortable asking questions or speaking up if you start the conversation.

Put Aside Your Own Expectations

Every trip should be tailored to the level of the person with the least experience (or the most limitations). That means asking what they’re up for, checking in throughout the day, and being open to changing plans. If there’s a cool waterfall up the trail that you’ve been dying to see, but your friend is tired, it’s time to turn around. If you wanted to go swimming in a lake but they’re psyched about watching herons from the shore, pull out your binoculars and join them, at least for a while. Odds are that the day won’t be quite like you expected, but with the right attitude, that’s an upside all around. Your friend had a great time, felt respected, while you got to see the place and activity that you love from a new perspective.

Clear the Plan Ahead of Time

Of course, as much as you might want to be flexible, many outdoor trips require some level of commitment. If you go backpacking, for instance, and someone decides they hate it, they can’t just snap their fingers and be done. The most important thing in these situations is to communicate beforehand, explaining everything so people can decide whether to take part or not. For instance: “Hey, if you come on this canoe trip, we’re going to be gone about six hours, and someone’s picking us up so we can’t really head back early. We’ll be in the sun the whole time, so we need to stay hydrated, and there won’t be bathrooms. Does that sound like something you want to do, or would you rather start with something shorter?” Someone could still get tired or nervous partway through—it happens to the best of us—but at least they’ll have made their own decision.

Give Them a Role

If someone’s a total newbie, then they’re already learning a ton just by being out there. If your friend is more experienced or has a desire to take on more responsibility, you could give them a task that they will perform throughout the trip. They might be responsible for navigating, cooking, and finding water. As they gain confidence and experience, they’ll be ready to take on more and more.

Distinguish Between Encouragement and Pressure

This one can seem tricky, because there are a lot of situations outdoors when people really appreciate encouragement—and there are also situations when it’s extremely annoying (or worse) to keep “encouraging” someone to do something they don’t want to do.

Unless you’re specifically averting an emergency, never put someone’s body in a situation they don’t want to be in. For instance, if you’re steering a boat, and they say “Don’t take us over there,” it’s super messed up to bring the boat (and their body) to the place they don’t want to go. If they’re riding your snowmobile, and ask you to please drive slowly, there is no world in which it’s funny to accelerate. If they’ve been standing at the edge of a cliff for an hour, trying to get up the nerve to jump into a river, do not give them a gentle push. Maybe you think that they’ll actually love the experience, and you’re trying to show them that. Maybe you think that you’re helping them. It doesn’t matter. You don’t have to do it. Don’t do it.

If you believe your friend will genuinely enjoy something they’re unsure about, just tell them. “I think if we take the boat over to those waves, you’ll have fun, and it’s very safe. You’re wearing a life jacket, and even if you fall out, the water is shallow enough to stand in. Do you want to give it a try?” Tell them what you think, and give the details. If they say no, respect their decision—cheerfully. They’re already pushing their comfort zone by coming out with you, and it’s vital to be a good steward of that trust.

If you’re ever in doubt about the line between encouragement and pressure, you can ask. “In all seriousness, do you want me to encourage you to [cliff jump/touch a bug/drive a dogsled]?” A nervous friend might really appreciate your cheerleading—as long as the choice is theirs.

Take Photos

It’s a not-so-secret among guides that they get better tips when they take lots of pictures for their guests. This is because everyone enjoys looking back at their adventure. But people can’t necessarily take great photos of themselves (or may feel awkward asking for them). Keep moving forward by taking lots of action shots and stopping at many photo stops along the way.

End on a Good Note

Fatigue can have a steep drop-off, meaning that someone can be having a great time, and then they get tired quickly, and continuing to do the activity at that point begins to feel like a chore or worse. If people are having fun, it is a good idea to leave on a positive note. Remember that even if the excursion felt simple to you, it’s a big deal to them—so send over the photos you took, and celebrate their accomplishment. And let them know that if they want to go out again, you’re there.

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